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I feel that the basis for a good relationship
is putting your partner's wishes,
desires and needs above yours. And if your partner has the same motive,
to put your needs first, then both will be fed.
But there is a real need for balance in this.
If only one person gives and gives and their partner only receives
without care about their partner's needs and desires...
then the relationship becomes out of balance.
In counseling all the time I hear from ladies that their partner
only cares about themselves.... especially in the bedroom,
and take their own pleasure and roll over and go to sleep without a
care
whether their partner was satisfied in the experience or not.
Ladies telling me their partner shows them no affection, no kissing,
no hugging.
Just do “The Deed” and fall asleep..... and think this is love making.
And wonder why their partners are out meeting others...
and finding affection and pleasure elsewhere.
While this happens with men ...
also some ladies who find a man who loves to give pleasure.....
just soak it up..... and don't care if their partner is satisfied either.
So sorry ladies are not exempt from being selfish lovers either.
I feel it is really important to find balance in your relationship.
Where both are equally giving to each other...
in love... affection.... and in all parts of the relationship.
This doesn't mean you should not love and honor yourself as well.
This is where the balance comes in.
You need to have a good healthy balance of self love and honoring.....
and equal balance of love and honor for your partner.
Caring about how your actions and words effect your partner.
And you should really carry this over to all relationships in your life.
Some don't realize how powerful their words,
thoughts (because they are the first step to manisfesting anything)
and actions are.
Communication in a relationship helps to keep a good healthy
balanced relationship also.... which I discuss more in detail on another
page.
So what does it take to have a balanced happy relationship?
Well for one it does take a little work.
It does take both of you caring about each others feelings,
and honoring each other.
Also having a Deep Heart Connection is most important.
For myself it is very important in a relationship.
In fact after you have experienced having this kind
of Deep Heart Connection with a partner...
you get spoiled and don't want anything else.
I have been learning a lot about Tantra and teachings of Tantra.
And how you apply them to your daily life and loves.
Being able to connect with a deep spiritual love connection
is like nothing you have ever experienced.
When I first heard or read about it....
I thought it was something to hard or would take forever
to get a grip on the knowledge of how to learn and experience it.
I will go into Tantra in some more depth on another page.
Sit down with your partner..... create some quiet time together...
so you can communicate about where your relationship is...
and where you both would like to see it grow to be in future.
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